When it all comes crashing down around you, it can be hard to take, hard to believe. Why does it have to happen to you? Having to deal with an affair or other traumatic event in your marriage at this stage of your life is not easy, and most likely you never saw it coming. You’ve worked so hard and for so long at building this relationship, and now you are likely questioning yourself, or asking, “Is my marriage over?”
These are questions that cannot be answered by somebody else. In this post I’m going to explain why only you can make the decision to end your marriage, and I’ll talk you through some questions you need to be asking yourself and your partner to discover what the right path ahead is.
Should I Consider Divorce? When Is A Marriage Over?
For many people, once somebody has had an affair then that’s it – the relationship is over. It’s not surprising, as this is what society tells us. This is what we see in the movies – a strong minded woman finding out the horrible truth, smacking her spouse across the face and storming off.
Of course, in reality things are far more complicated. You have such a long history with your partner that it can’t all boil down to one moment.
The most important thing I want to share with you however is that couples work through fidelity and other issues like this all the time, and come through the other side. In fact, it’s what I recommend. I would not say it’s a wise idea to go headfirst into divorce without dealing with your emotions first.
It takes time to come to terms with the situation and how you feel with it. You must accept your emotions – the anger, betrayal, jealousy, resentment, heartache and move on from them. Only then can you make a sound judgement, and whatever decision you come to has to be your own.
Indeed, I would like to sound a warning to you – be careful of who you confide in at this time. Your friends and family will all have their own opinions and will react in different ways. If you confide in a friend and she tells you to get a divorce and move on, this doesn’t mean you have to take her advice. In fact, if you do decide to try to patch things up and rebuild your relationship, then your friend may resent your partner forever after. So make sure you speak to people who you trust implicitly and who will be non-judgmental.
Questions you should be asking yourself and your partner at this time:
- How serious is your spouse about wanting to make it work?
- Is the affair completely over?
- Has your partner given you a heartfelt apology?
- Have you discussed the details of the affair?
- Can you move forward being transparent in everything you do and say?
Is My Marriage Over? Help Is At Hand For Those Who Ask
I’d like to introduce you to a friend of mine. His name is Dr Frank Gunzburg. Frank has been fighting to save marriages for over 30 years, and he’s been doing a very good job indeed. He has a history in marriage counselling and has a PhD.
However, I’m not suggesting that counselling is the best option for you right now. In fact, in many cases it is difficult to get your partner to agree to counselling in the first place, and each session can become extraordinarily expensive.
Dr Gunzburg realizes that most people want to avoid divorce at all costs, and that counselling is out of reach for many couples. That’s why he developed his own step-by-step system to help couples work past the trauma of an affair, and rebuild their relationship into something even more wonderful than before.
His system is called ‘How To Survive An Affair’. First, he explains why dealing with your own emotions has to be the FIRST thing you do. Only once you come to terms with your own emotions will you be able to move forward together. That is the first of 3 steps to creating a new bond and trust as a foundation of a lasting and loving relationship.
I’m sure you’re eager to learn more, and there is so much to learn that I’m actually excited for you. I really hope this is the start of a big turning point in your marriage. Indeed, many times an affair in a marriage is just the catalyst that makes a couple question where they are going in a relationship, and they end up stronger than they ever were before.
You can sign up below for Dr Frank Gunzburg’s free 21-step healing plan, which is delivered to you instantly be email. Then Stephanie, his assistant, will follow up with you on important lessons to take away from this and she will show you where you can find the full course ‘How To Survive An Affair’ and more details about it.
Click Here To Get Started With The 21-Step Healing Plan
Go ahead to that page and sign up right away. “Is my marriage over?” It doesn’t have to be – don’t lose another minute, you can start to feel normal again very soon. I wish you all the luck in your journey.
