Infidelity can be something that brings your marriage crashing down – but it doesn’t have to be that way. I’m going to outline a course of action for you on how to survive infidelity in marriage and move forwards together, but the healing has to start with you first.
Most likely you are still living with your spouse that cheated, or you are recently separated. Indeed, you may not even know if the affair is over or not, but you are having difficulties trusting anything your partner says and just want an end to it all.
How To Survive Infidelity – Is Counselling The Only Option?
No.
You’ve probably been told that you can talk about the details and work together with your husband or wife in counselling sessions. The problem is that your spouse may not want to have these sessions, not to mention the fact that the bills can rack up pretty fast if they charge by the hour.
The good news is that you don’t have to go through with counselling. Surviving infidelity in a marriage is all about starting the healing process by yourself, and then slowly bringing your partner into it as well. Once they have seen that you are starting down the road to healing, you can make progress with them, be that finding out the truth, improving communication, rebuilding trust or reigniting the passion.
How Can I Ever Trust Him/Her Again?
Trust is perhaps the number one issue for surviving infidelity in marriage. The trust you have spent years cultivating has been smashed to the floor in one fell swoop, and it’s not going to be easy to put it back together again. If you aren’t even sure if the affair is ongoing or not, this is really a trust issue as well.
Trust is the foundation of your relationship.
“When Jonathon and I started talking again, it was great. We opened up in ways we hadn’t been able to do until then. But I still couldn’t get away from the suspicion that he would betray me again.”
You may not trust your partner right now in terms of fidelity, but trust is not all or nothing. You very likely trust them in other ways, and we just need to build upon that foundation to incorporate fidelity trust in the future.
In How To Survive An Affair by Dr Gunzburg, you can learn all about the five forms of trust in a relationship. Think about the different ways that trust is built into the very fabric of your relationship – couples often tie their finances together, they rely on each other for emotional support, physical safety and trust each other to tell the truth at all times.
You can learn all about these pillars of trust and how transparency is the key to rebuilding after an infidelity in marriage from page 119 in Dr Gunzburg’s book. It’s actually an e-book that you can order and download to start reading in a matter of minutes, and is 178 pages long.
My recommendation to you is to visit this page: http://copingwithadultery.com/gunzburg-05 where you can sign up for the doctor’s free 7-part email series. After that you can decide if you want to go for the full course (keep in mind that counselling or even divorce will be far more expensive, and there is a 100% money-back guarantee, so you have nothing to lose).
Inside the free email series and newsletter, you will discover:
1) Why healing yourself and dealing with the raw emotions (heartache, betrayal, anger, jealousy) you have first is the most important step in how to survive infidelity in marriage. If your husband or wife won’t talk about the infidelity, you’ll learn how to deal with that here.
Whether your marriage can continue with your current spouse or not, you will learn how to heal and be able to trust anybody if you embark on a new relationship in the future.
2) How to end the affair once and for all…
3) How to get your spouse back and start rebuilding your new relationship
On that page there is a video I’d like you to watch. It should open your eyes to what you need to be doing right now. Don’t delay this because I really want to see you get your relationship back on track, starting right now. After viewing the video, download the free report (all you are required to give is a free email address) and start the healing process today.
- 100% transparency to trust again
- How to talk about the details
- Experience true forgiveness
- Know that the infidelity will never happen again
Click Here To Rebuild Your Self-Confidence And Survive The Infidelity TODAY
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